Someone Who Loves You or Someone You Love?

My mom asked me if I had a boyfriend and I outright said, No. Not that I'm not into dating or being with someone but I'm not exactly looking for it either. I think some things are not meant to be chased. This situation is where the "Good things come to those who wait" quote applies. But then this led us to more thought provoking, situation skewing questions. One of them being: Who would you choose, someone who loves you or someone who you love? This is not saying that you don't love the other person or the other person doesn't love you, this means that in one relationship, which is better to have and deal with and stay with forever? Someone you love but he/she loves you more or someone loves you but not as much as you love him. 

My mom told me why she thinks that it is better to have someone who loves you more than you love them. She said: "When that guy loves you more, you won't be a puppy who follows everything he says even if you don't want to do it. He will respect you and cherish you without end and you'll learn to love him just as much. Loving someone who already loves you so much is so much easier to reciprocate. That working hard every single day just to show the other person your worth and still getting half-assed results. It's less likely that you'll get your heart broken and together you can create a family and show them how love moves people to do things at extraordinary measures."

I told my mom that while these were all true, love isn't about convenience. It's about everything else. Hardships,ups and downs, thrills, giddiness,a work-in-progress, and ton of other stuff that can't be put to words. That's why so many people choose to love someone more than the other loves them. They want to work hard and do whatever it takes to make it happen because the fruit of all of those is requited with love from someone they love above and beyond. The journey to getting there is what will make the love story so much more amusing and awesome to share. Of course, there are more risks in this love but some people are worth taking risks for. Sometimes, it won't work out but when it does, it's magical and that's LEGIT. 

I really don't know though, right now I'd rather be the person who loves the other more. When the time comes when I have a serious boyfriend or whatever, I don't know how it'll be but, with my ever active brain stuff, I think I'll be just fine. Mind over heart. 

What is the Line?

Being a Facebook user and seeing different kinds of people post some stuff, you can't help but notice that some people just don't know the difference of standing up for what you believe in and stooping down to your offender's level. Sometimes I feel like people do both but sometimes I feel like "Yeah that was good time to intervene and give the person a piece of your mind". I just can't say the same when people complain about the pettiest, smallest things that can be overlooked or need not be posted on Facebook or any social network for that matter.

I say this because we have to be responsible with the things we post and exercise our freedom of speech properly. I've been thinking about this because some people do not know the effect of the things they post and are just stupid about it. Take one of my Facebook friends who was overcome by emotion because he overheard some lady talking shit about his grandmother so he takes it to the internet and just writes out all his feelings and telling his Facebook friends to share the post with the lady's picture in it and it just turned me off because he did not take it like a man and he was bitching about it for everyone to see. It was annoying, it took all my willpower not to comment on the post asking him to take it down. I didn't though because we're not close and it was really none of my business. 

The other type is just standing up for what you believe in which happened when someone shared about a guy not giving up his seat in the subway when there was a girl standing up. She called the guy out for doing so and saying he was unattractive and ending the post with "CHIVALRY IS DEAD". It was rude and I was so happy to see that people were defending the guy saying that there is still chivalry but there was no need to call out a guy for not giving his seat up for a girl. It's 2015(almost 2016), there's a thing called equality so people should stop being bigots and just accept things wholly, not just the parts that work in their favor. I personally commented on it too but almost all the comments written had the same stuff I wanted to voice out so even if there are some cases when people forget the line but I'm glad more people recognize it. 

This is just my opinion and take on things and I just needed to voice it out so here I am. Have a nice day! and Advance Merry Christmas!