My mom asked me if I had a boyfriend and I outright said, No. Not that I'm not into dating or being with someone but I'm not exactly looking for it either. I think some things are not meant to be chased. This situation is where the "Good things come to those who wait" quote applies. But then this led us to more thought provoking, situation skewing questions. One of them being: Who would you choose, someone who loves you or someone who you love? This is not saying that you don't love the other person or the other person doesn't love you, this means that in one relationship, which is better to have and deal with and stay with forever? Someone you love but he/she loves you more or someone loves you but not as much as you love him.
My mom told me why she thinks that it is better to have someone who loves you more than you love them. She said: "When that guy loves you more, you won't be a puppy who follows everything he says even if you don't want to do it. He will respect you and cherish you without end and you'll learn to love him just as much. Loving someone who already loves you so much is so much easier to reciprocate. That working hard every single day just to show the other person your worth and still getting half-assed results. It's less likely that you'll get your heart broken and together you can create a family and show them how love moves people to do things at extraordinary measures."
I told my mom that while these were all true, love isn't about convenience. It's about everything else. Hardships,ups and downs, thrills, giddiness,a work-in-progress, and ton of other stuff that can't be put to words. That's why so many people choose to love someone more than the other loves them. They want to work hard and do whatever it takes to make it happen because the fruit of all of those is requited with love from someone they love above and beyond. The journey to getting there is what will make the love story so much more amusing and awesome to share. Of course, there are more risks in this love but some people are worth taking risks for. Sometimes, it won't work out but when it does, it's magical and that's LEGIT.
I really don't know though, right now I'd rather be the person who loves the other more. When the time comes when I have a serious boyfriend or whatever, I don't know how it'll be but, with my ever active brain stuff, I think I'll be just fine. Mind over heart.
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